An inside look at s&m These ritualized behaviors; the strange and blatant acts, some which seem to be cut right from a horror-fiction film; the rigid symbolism in dress, and manner - none of these behaviors should be taken lightly, or ever treated as a mere 'game'. For those who do possess, in the depths of their being, the predominantly Sado-Masochistic tendency cannot do without the flavor of it. And it will taint every relationship - it is very often not a choice - and often it destroys love; and thus, to its possessor, it is rarely a possession to be proud of. The most striking peculiarity of sadomasochism is in the fact that its active and passive forms are regularly encountered together