BDSM BDSM stands for Bondage Discipline Sadism and Masochism. Most regard this as a perverted form of sexuality limited only to gays who they also regard as perverted. This is far from the case, as even the great marquis de Sade was into this sort of play, and was clearly straight. Whereas there are more problems involved in BDSM than in Vanilla sex, the form of sexuality called BDSM is also much more a form requiring trust., In a typical scenario, one person in this case i will call the person he, is a dom. The other (she) is a sub. He will begin by telling she that she must kneel and present herself. He will then often collar she, tie she up, and then proceed to spank she torture she and even force sex