You Just Don't Understand: The Differences In Men and Women In her book, You Just Don't Understand, Deborah Tannen makes many arguments about how men and women act and what they want to hear in conversation. These examples help the reader grasp Tannen's ideas and arguments and make the book more interesting and easier to relate to. In order to support her arguments, Tannen uses many examples that give the reader an idea of situations that are brought about during conversations between men and women. The three examples that are to be discussed will reveal the different interpre